I’m always amazed at my parent’s marriage. Even after more than 27 years of marriage, they deeply love each other and it shows in their conversations, their actions and their day-to-day routines.

My dad will go out of his way to chaffeur my mom around, whether to the doctor’s, to shopping, to work, etc. Even if he’s busy at work or really tired, if he is able to do it, he will willingly and lovingly drive her to wherever she wants to go.

My mom is always encouraging and looking out for my dad. She reminds (and sometimes forces) him to rest and take care of himself. She waits till the wee hours of the morning waiting for my dad when he comes back from his trips. She is always there to help him sound out problems and give wise advice and a different perspective.

My parents are always quick to remind me that their loving marriage is not because they have a magic formula or that they are just geniuses at marriage. All credit goes back to the Lord who kept them together through many tough and miserable times (and from what I hear, there were many) and helped them find the joy in each other and in their union.

Looking at my parents, it’s interesting to see how they have grown on each other. My outgoing and hot-headed (which I have inherited) dad has calmed down and is slower to anger. My quiet and loner mom has become more out-going and vocal. Oh and they both look alike! I can’t understand it, but they do! That’s why everyone knows that we’re a family when we go out together. We all look so similar! Plus, we’re loud (except my mom).

I love my parents dearly and treasure their stable and loving relationship. They are truly a great example of what I want my marriage to be – supportive, loving, full of laughter, strength for each other in hard times and the willingness to say sorry.

Above all, the thing I want the most is the JOY, pure joy in each other and most importantly, in serving the Lord as one.